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Sjonesmusic
06-22-2004, 12:14 PM
Can you imagine a future where you find yourself spending your nights sitting in front of the T.V. skipping mindlessly from cable show to cable show; browsing endlessly on the internet.....you were once all fired up with big dreams to become a great musician, make your mark.....but somewhere in that clutter and distraction you allowed things to stagnate; the fire went out....dreams were sacrificed to trivial things. This is a future of unrealized potential.

It leads to stagnation. Unfulfilled goals and aspirations.....a sense of not living life, at least not the one you had imagined. It leads to boredom....

Negative patterns of behavior never change....

Abilities and gifts aren't cultivated and deployed...

Weeks turn into months and years, and you look back to see a life of:

Deep, intimate, gut wrenchingly honest conversations never spoken....

Bold dreams allowed to fade...

Exhilarating risks not taken.....

Gifts not given....

Lives you never touched....

In the midst of this realization, you find:

A world of desperate need.....

A calliing missed to be a part of something greater than yourself......

A person you did not become.....


Going through life with eyes closed and ears shut, not hearing those who are trying to speak to you, living half of your life waiting for your life to begin......thinking that it was always somewhere off in the future.....

Well the time is now.......

Time to wake up and do something......


Don't fall prey to routine.....condemning yourself to it.....

Your dreams will go unpursued, your talents untested....


Will you ever find time to plan?

Take risks?

Take initiative?


Are you too comfortable with routine?


Time to reassess then........

Don't lose potential, a chance to grow, simply because you don't want to look carefully at the truth, preferring to bury it.


Coming to a sense of gratitude, realization of the prize you've been given, is the first step....

Finding a way to use it, to give it back, is the next step....

Crushing those excuses is a start:

"I would do ______________, but my job stifles me"

"I would pursue _____________, but I need familiarity"

"I would learn ________________, but it takes too long"


What?


Time to jump in......


You were given a gift.......and if you are here you probably consider it music related.......

Then be thankful for it, and find a way to give it back.....

One problem I see is the comparison game. Which is ridiculous, because we are all not given the same amount, or the same kind of gift.

Ruthlessly refuse to compare your talents with anyone else.

Comparison will lead to a damaging pride and a false sense of superiority.

Or it will lead to misery and discounting that which you DO have.

You must come to identify, cultivate, invest, prize, and enjoy the gifts you've been given, and strive to fullfill the purpose behind your life.

Think:

"What will you do with what you were given?"

Not:

"What will I do with what I wasn't given"

Unrealized potential stands to be a great regret, and I'm just trying to foster some thought on it.

I want my life to end with:

"What he was, what he became"

Not:

"What might have been"

Ask these questoins of yourself:

What is my deepest dream?

How much passion do I experience in my daily life?

What do I want my epitaph to say?

How much am I growing these days?

How often do I take risks that require a dedication greater than the norm?

If I had to name the "one true thing" I was set upon this Earth to do, what is it?

How clear is that to me?


Just some stuff I've been thinking about.......and wanted to share.....

Not trying to preach, because in all honesty, I struggle with these very things everyday....

Sometimes people are more afraid of success than failure......

Peace,

Scott

Black_the_Sky
06-22-2004, 02:14 PM
I once heard a man say that when he died he wanted to be able to look back and say, "Man, did I LIVE.. what a wild ride!" :)

Unhorizon
06-22-2004, 03:00 PM
Dead Poet's Society (great movie)

"Carpe Diem, Sieze the day"

(Also Dream Theater "A Change of Seasons", great song)

Koala
06-22-2004, 03:06 PM
Funny last night i was thinking of posting something like that ( alot shorter tho). Nice to look back at things and look into the future sometimes to see where you are standing and to get motivated.

Lightning_Lead
06-22-2004, 03:57 PM
Hey,

I've been having similiar thoughts myself.
Nice post dude.

GuitarLausing
06-22-2004, 09:46 PM
Great Post!!
Work on it and record a MIND-BLOWING speach!

This will rousen and awake the slumbering world! Let us be free of our false prejudices and rid us of the useless expectations that the world bombard ourselves with!



...sorry, got carried away there.. Great post, Scott

Metal Dan
06-23-2004, 04:26 AM
Yeah right? What ever happens to these dreams? Some people are so quick to give them up. As a child, did you EVER dream of becoming a sales associate, maintenance worker, or chained to a desk for 8 hours a day helping to make someone else rich? No. We dreamed of becoming astronaughts, actors/actresses, atheletes and ROCK STARS :D

sugarbee
06-23-2004, 10:57 AM
Thanks, I really needed that!
I have been feeling so stagnant, I feel like I am so far behind in terms of my dreams. A lot of what you said really made me think, and you are so right. It is all about looking forward, but at the same time remembering what it is that you really want. I have known for a long time what I was meant to do..and I did it for a while really well...then my life started getting in the way. But I am looking forward now to a future of performance. Full time. It has to be my #1 priority. But I do need to be reminded of it from time to time. It's just too easy to get scared and push our desires under the rug, pretend we can do fine without them.

In truth, this site has really, really, really helped me lately, I wish I had found it a long time ago. Having the feedback and support of other musicians who "get it" is invaluable, especially now as I'm mentally preparing to go back home to my piano and my language and my community of music, which is a very different environment than the one I am in now. I am itching to play, to write to record, to get a band together, to start giging again, the desire is so strong now, which excites me, because it has waned in the last few years, I pushed it under the rug, but I'm vowing not to do it anymore. And more posts like this one are only going to keep that desire burning.

Melodramatic (but sincere) rant is ended.

Thank you IBreathe!

Dave
06-23-2004, 04:03 PM
Thanks Scott for that very inspirational post! I just ran a copy of it and am going to keep it near by for whenever I need a little push. Your post obviously not only applies to our musical ambitions but for the rest of our lives too. Thanks again...

Dave :)

Axe-aholic
06-23-2004, 04:31 PM
Yeah right? What ever happens to these dreams? Some people are so quick to give them up. As a child, did you EVER dream of becoming a sales associate, maintenance worker, or chained to a desk for 8 hours a day helping to make someone else rich? No. We dreamed of becoming astronaughts, actors/actresses, atheletes and ROCK STARS :D

What a terrible world this would be if everyone fulfilled thier childhood dreams.

We'd have a lot of hungry astronaughtical actors who listened to way too much rock music. :p

Dreams are great and all. But not every life should to be directed towards fame and innovation. Farmers, accountants, maintenance workers, truck drivers etc are all part of the society and are all crucial to society. All hail the peasents, laborers, and solders! 'Peace to the huts' and all that jazz! :p
Everyone should have dreams, but what makes the dream to be a famous movie star or something any better than the dream to start a plumbing buisiness? It's not so much what you do, it's how you do it. I don't really want to look back at my life and be able to say "I did it all". I want to be able to look back and say that whatever I did, I did it well and to the benifit of mankind.


Anyway, good post, Sjones

Stranger
06-23-2004, 07:15 PM
Axe for president! strong counter-strike :)

oscardoo
06-24-2004, 07:49 AM
Great post Sjonesmusic
I'm with Sugarbee - this site freakin rocks!
I've obtained SO much valuable information - I too wish I had found this site years ago!
I also wanted to let all the other musicians know that you WILL find compatible bandmates if you keep looking!
I searched and auditioned for years before I found my current band (actually they found me) and now I could'nt be happier musically.

Peace

Metal Dan
06-24-2004, 03:31 PM
What a terrible world this would be if everyone fulfilled thier childhood dreams.

We'd have a lot of hungry astronaughtical actors who listened to way too much rock music. :p

Dreams are great and all. But not every life should to be directed towards fame and innovation. Farmers, accountants, maintenance workers, truck drivers etc are all part of the society and are all crucial to society. All hail the peasents, laborers, and solders! 'Peace to the huts' and all that jazz! :p
Everyone should have dreams, but what makes the dream to be a famous movie star or something any better than the dream to start a plumbing buisiness? It's not so much what you do, it's how you do it. I don't really want to look back at my life and be able to say "I did it all". I want to be able to look back and say that whatever I did, I did it well and to the benifit of mankind.


Anyway, good post, Sjones


Man, don't take it so damn literally. You know what I meant. It's not just those particular dreams I listed above. It's whatever dream you may have. Most people give up doing what they want to do because they are either scared or don't want to leave their comfort zone. It really has nothing to do with fame or fortune. In fact it was in complete agreement with Sjones in saying you shouldn't let yourself waste away.

Axe-aholic
06-24-2004, 11:22 PM
You know what I meant.
Apparently, I didn't :p
I wasn't adressing my whole post to you, just the first part. The latter part was a aimless rant. You implied that people should follow childhood dreams, and I said that maybe that wouldn't be such a good idea since most childhood dreams revolve around :Policemen, Firefighters, actresses/actors, war heroes, musicians or veterinarians. Occasionally you'll find a dorky kid who wants to be a lawyer or politician, but it my experience those are rare finds indeed. :p

Axe-aholic
06-24-2004, 11:23 PM
Axe for president!

Sorry, but that's not my dream. I wanna be a verterinarian and a firefighter! :cool:

oRg
06-26-2004, 06:10 AM
It kinda goes along with that saying "hindsight is always 20/20". I look back and actually wish I had picken up guitar earlier that what I did. Chances are I would be alot better than I currently am but I don't regret by decision to pick up guitar at such a late age. I have a philosophy that you shouldn't regret what you did so long ago but accept and agree that it has made you all the better a person today. I also have a belief that all things happen for a reason. Maybe someone didn't fulfill a lifelong passion and pours his/her heart out to their families on their deathbed. That instance right there has changed every single person that he/she spoke to. From there that may have been enough to change the ways of a certain person and push them to follow their lifelong dream.

Guitardeth
07-19-2004, 08:16 PM
Thanks dude! I've been thinking this for myself for a so long time. I've friends who always, ALWAYS tells me that: "You ain't gonna earn enough money on your playing". That sucks big time hearing that. I try not to talk to them. But when I look at their lifes I've seen that they have nothing they're doing founded on that they believe in them self. On of them folds carpet, listen to music and and play computer games. That's not what I call believeing in your self. To do that you have to go against the norms of the modern society (if you don't are in to somekind of atlethics, cause that is accepted). Almost any other cases people will look down on you, but IMO they are scared to do it themself.

Let me explain further:

I really want to play guitar for the rest of my life. I don't care if my band won't sell very much records, I don't care if I have to work halftime aside my playing to pay my bills, I don't care if I can't go for 2 weeks vaciation every year cause that's not my dream in life. Some people look forward to such lifes and that's good for them, but not for me.

I've spend so many hours playing, cause I feel it gives something back to me. The guitar truly is my best friend, cause I'm never bored with it, I feel that I can accomplish something (which I didn't thought some years ago). When I record myself and listen to it I can think: "That's my stuff", and my selfesteem grows.

Thanx for a great post, Sjonesmusic! That was more important then any shredlick, theory whatever..